my family

big black boy

My son, Avery, is the color of caramel. He is 15 years old, stands nearly 6 feet 2 inches tall and weighs almost 200 pounds. He is a Big. Black. Boy. Because Avery is a big black boy, when we moved a couple of years ago, one of my first tasks was to parade him around our new neighborhood. Smile and wave, I told him, so they know you belong here.

intuition

When my son Avery was 5 years old, I moved out to suburbia for the “great public schools.” Mistake. Doesn’t quite make my “top ten worst decisions” list—I’ve made some doozies. It wasn't all bad because it let me know for sure just how into me Robert was when we started dating.